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The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, or Desperate Hardback - 2001

by Harriet Lerner

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Subtitled: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate, The Dance of Connection focuses on communication within intimate relationships to express one´s true self. Author Harriet Lerner is a clinical psychologist known for her books on improving family and work relationships. Her first book, The Dance of Anger, published in 1985, was the first book published in the United States on the subject of women´s anger. The Dance of Connection is her seventh published book for adults and teaches people to navigate their most important relationships with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.

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Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships.

The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.


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The Dance of Connection was first published by Harper Collins in 2001. The first paperback edition was published by Quill in 2002.

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  • Title The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, or Desperate
  • Author Harriet Lerner
  • Binding Hardback
  • Edition First edition
  • Pages 272
  • Volumes 1
  • Language ENG
  • Publisher HarperCollins, Scranton, Pennsylvania, U.S.A.
  • Publication date September 2001
  • ISBN 9780060196387 / 0060196386
  • Weight 1.21 lbs (0.55 kg)
  • Dimensions 9.25 x 6.12 x 0.93 in (23.50 x 15.54 x 2.36 cm)
  • Category Psychology
  • Library of Congress subjects Interpersonal communication, Intimacy (Psychology)
  • Library of Congress Catalogue Number 00054182
  • Dewey Decimal Code 153.6
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