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by Alan Downs

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Readers found this self-help book on gay male psychology powerful but polarizing. Many praised its clear three-stage model of moving from shame to authenticity, its practical relationship guidance, and its capacity to spark deep personal reflection—some even calling it life-changing. At the same time, a significant contingent criticized the author’s sweeping “we” statements, reliance on anecdote over research, and a narrow, affluent, white, urban U.S. lens that felt stereotypical or exclusionary. Several called it dated and occasionally heteronormative or essentialist, noting repetition and minor editorial flaws. Despite the critiques, even skeptics acknowledged valuable insights and found it accessible and useful for understanding queer men’s experiences.

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In this moving guide, a gay man shares his personal journey of letting go of shame and moving forward with self-compassion and healing.

"A touchstone in gay culture." --Observer

"The clearest, most succinct delineation of the origins and consequences of internalized homophobia, and how to address them." --Artvoice

Even though an entire generation of men have openly and freely come out of the closet, gay men still struggle with self-acceptance. Sexually transmitted diseases, depression, and suicide occur more frequently for gay men than straight men. It doesn't have to be this way.

Through brave individual stories and compassionate analysis, The Velvet Rage explores how shame is insidious, and can be traced back to childhood feelings of "otherness". Drawing on contemporary psychological research, Alan Downs offers a path to emotional well-being and an end to self-defeating behavior.

Velvet Rage is an empowering book you'll wish you read long ago. It's not too late to begin the healing process.

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  • Title The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
  • Author Alan Downs
  • Binding Paperback
  • Edition Second Edition
  • Pages 272
  • Volumes 1
  • Language ENG
  • Publisher Legacy Lit, Boulder, CO, U.S.A.
  • Publication date 2012-06-05
  • Features Bibliography, Index, Price on Product - Canadian, Table of Contents
  • ISBN 9780738215679 / 0738215678
  • Weight 0.52 lbs (0.24 kg)
  • Dimensions 8.2 x 5.4 x 0.8 in (20.83 x 13.72 x 2.03 cm)
  • Themes
    • Sex & Gender: Gay
    • Topical: Lgbt
  • Category Gender Studies
  • Library of Congress subjects Shame, Gay men - Psychology
  • Library of Congress Catalogue Number 2012933548
  • Dewey Decimal Code 306.766

About the author

Alan Downs, PhD is a clinical psychologist and the bestselling author of seven books. His work is acclaimed internationally and has been published in more than twenty-seven languages. He is a sought-after conference speaker, workshop leader, and frequent media commentator on the psychology of gay men. He has more than 25 years of experience in working with individuals from all walks of life, and is currently in private practice in Los Angeles, California.

Currently, he consults with individuals and couples in his Los Angeles office as well as over the internet worldwide. In addition to his expertise in working with gay men, he is an intensively trained Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) therapist who has worked with individuals as well as therapists who are seeking to learn the mindfulness, emotion regulation and distress tolerance skills which are so effectively taught within the DBT therapeutic framework. Most recently, Dr. Downs has been quoted in Vogue, The Guardian, and The New York Times.

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